This is a good day to ask ourselves how we are holding back, how we are pulling away, how we are shutting down or closing off. And then asking how we can open more, accept more, and say yes more. If we’re sober today, there’s no point mourning the loss of alcohol or drugs as our companion. That’s just wasting time in yesterday. If we’re drinking today, and thinking about being sober, there’s no point mourning whatever sobriety we might have had that’s gone. The story (of life) is about the edge. When we come up against it we can be seized with fear and a basic lack of trust in ourselves, god, and others.
All the way up the mountain there are edges. The one you’re looking at right now isn’t the last one you’re ever going to see, so man up! It doesn’t matter where you meet your edge, what matters is that you feel a little uncomfortable and you say yes to opening a little more, because when you feel uncomfortable, it’s an amazing opportunity to practice loving kindness (aka: humor, patience and play) for yourself. Remember, there’s no such thing as a true story. There’s only what we think we know about it all. And when we realize we’re in a place where we’re certain of what we know, that’s exactly the moment we need to push and open a little more. Holding onto anything, any belief, limits what we are able to experience in life.
In her amazing book, The Wisdom of No Escape, Pema Chodron points out how Christians got all worked up over the movie The Last Temptation of Christ because it dared to suggest that Christ might not have been who people thought he was. She also notes that Muslims went wild over Salman Rushdie’s Satanic Verses. And that we see this everywhere. Buddhists killing Hindus. Jews killing Christians. Protestants killing Catholics.
We’re all guilty of thinking we know, because the truth of the matter is that we desperately want something to hold onto in a groundless world. It’s a human thing. Part of the human predicament. That’s why the edge is so important. Rather than thinking that if we get too close to another’s idea it might push us over, we should aim to be more like the birds that laugh in the windy storms of winter and let the winds toss them from here to there until they can no longer hold on–they have to let go.